Alone

          

Genesis 2:18

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

        Alone. That word is one of the most terrifying words on the planet. Because as humans we were not meant to be alone. God created Eve because Man was not made to be alone. Then sin entered the world... and everything changed.

        I came up with this blog post in the middle of a sermon at church. And here i am writing it all out. This is for all the people who have to help others to feel whole.

      So I was there in church and I was feeling super depressed because one of my friends was going through a super hard time and i felt like i have not been the best friend. But as i sat there praying, i realized that I have been there for her and there was not much else i could do. I was sad because i felt like i had not helped her.. That's the problem with me.. I want to help too much. And when i can't, i get upset. Helping others physically helps me. At least i tell myself that. Sitting there i realized that she had her own life and i had mine. I could not fix her situation, i could just be there for her as a friend. Just like i realized i can't fix my situation..and i need to be a better friend to myself.

       With these thoughts it really just make me think about how alone we are in this world. Definitely when families break down and friendships fall apart. All because of sin. When we die we are alone and when we are born we are detached from our mothers and alone. Then i thought about something else. What has been the one thing that has been there for me. God. Yes we are alone on this planet but God has always been there for me. And i know he will be there for my friend. God gave me the people in my life so i am not alone all the time. Those times that you are alone with yourself it's really just you being alone with God. And he can help you find yourself.

     Now like me you may think well God gave me to someone to help them in their trials. But to tell you the truth He may be using that trial to grow them and you trying to get involved may even be getting in the way. Or maybe God is telling you to go help someone. But he will never ask you to do that if you start to live their life instead of yours or having them step all over you.

The main point is you can't try to change other people's lives.

 

 

 

       Now let's talk about relationships. What i said above can apply to relationships also. Definitely when you try to change your significant other's life in a controlling way. You may think you know best,. You know them, you know what they need. But trust me.. God knows better.. Not you.  

       Right now you might be thinking oh as soon as i get a boyfriend/girlfriend i'll be happy and i won't be lonely and everything will be great. Well i am here to tell you first off that is not true. As a matter of fact i feel more lonely after getting a boyfriend then before. Because before i was content being alone. I did not know anything else, I did not know that feeling of love and attachment. And for those people out there that do have a boyfriend or girlfriend you might then think like me well as soon as i get married then it will get easier. Now i have not experienced this first hand but i just from watching marriage after marriage fall apart i can say that hope is not true either. Once you stop looking at someone to heal your aloneness then you will stop feeling alone. Because God is there and he is once again that thing you are endlessly searching for.  

      I had someone once tell me that being lonely was a choice. Just as being alone and lonely are two diffrent things. I am sure you have experienced the saying of feeling lonely or alone in a crowd of people.

      I guess what i am trying to say in this post is that i guess it's sad that we have to leave other peoples lives alone..But then God is here for us and them so we are really never alone. Even sin can’t separate us from God and his love.

     Well i have to say this post took a very different twist then where i thought it was going but as always i hoped that maybe God will use this to help. Or maybe at least help take care of me.

Marci